"They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't.
One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook-ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out...maybe it will help to think that you aren't alone in this state of confusion...
GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF US. " - Anonymous
- I received this forward a few years ago, when I'd just turned twenty and found it amazingly "spot-on" in its content...an ex-classmate from college sent it again today - and as I read it, I was struck by how many of the things mentioned have been experienced by me, and even catalogued in this very blog. Simply had to post it!
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Hi Geetanjali, an awesome post and my god! as I read the lines, I feel I can relate so well with most of it ....literally what one feels and go through....
Life goes on and we have to move along with it. Whether we like it or not. Life is not only about the high notes, its about the low ones as well. It's not all bad, but I must admit it is easier to get self-involved only in the negativities that life has to dish out.
Take a little bit of effort and remember the good times. Remember those days when you thought - it can't get better than this. Remember the rush? The sheer exhilaration? Now hold on to it and don’t let go! Let the memory of that feeling help you surf through life. And before you know it, you will have so many new wonderful memories. So many new rushes and excitements!
Gee,
Wow! Thats what I call "Synchronocity". I am exactly going through most of the motions mentioned by that anonymous bloke. In fact I can even vouch a couple of my friends exactly are in the same boat too. I couldnt have said it better.It validates so many of my beliefs.
Haa such a relief to know that you are not alone..
>We are in our best of times and our worst of times
"it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despairn " my mind was reciting.
>You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you >loved could do such damage to you
I always believed Love damages the living and hence no surprises there.
>or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that >you are going to have to start at the bottom and that >scares you
I currently have a decent job.Yes.I am scared of changing my job and starting at the bottom but what the heck I am gonna do it anyhow..Its just a question of when?
>You worry about loans, money, the future and making a >life for yourself
Definitely.The State Bank of India loan hangs like the sword of damocles above my head.
Enough said and I thank you GeeBaby for posting such a resonant post in the nick of the time.Knowledge is power because armed with this you know everybody is in the same s**t and hence I can make a bold move.
The inertia comes from the fact that you hbelieve everybody is secure and you are the lonely one...
this person took the words right outta my mouth!
:-) Well as the writer said, everyone who reads it will relate to it!
Btw A.Diddy - I got this the 1st time from you... doesn't thee remember it?)
i dost remembereth my dear Geets(why are we conversing in 16th Century English? lol)...just thoughtest i'd posteth a comment ;)
Quarter-Life Crisis .. I have seen a book on it
Quarterlife Crisis: The Unique Challenges of Life in Your Twenties
Btw nice blog ...
Hii Geets, Been busy, no posts in the past few days??? waiting to hear from you soon :)
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