Then yesterday Annika and Hana wanted to know if I got anything - card, gift, call or more on Saturday night...and I'm like No...and then they asked if I was expecting anything and I replied, Good heavens NO - Annika was a bit surprised I think coz I've told her I'm very romantic inside all my practical sensible exterior....(which had surprised me coz I thought it was obvious to everyone but well it wasn't to her)...and well...got me thinking...I'm pretty sure at some time of my adolescence I must have wanted a guy to make the day special for me, though thankfully I don't remember any such embarrassing desires ( Amnesia can be a blessing at times, eh?), but frankly today I'd rather just be loved moderately and faithfully through-out the year rather than just crazily and exorbitantly on ONE day in the year so I could tell a bunch of giggling women how cute my Mr.Right is!! Provided there is one....
Got a forward today on Valentine's Day - one of those typical "We guys have been conned into this and it's nothing but a way of emptying our wallets" and I'm thinking of the hundreds of ad execs who market this day and are basically very very male and would stand up to defend their masculinity...and I'm thinking, so who tells you to anyways...I think the woman-bashing is getting really juvenile now, what say? Let's face it, the guys enjoy being silly just as much as the girls like it, so why place the blame on the girls?
Reminded me also of the "Big Fight" on NDTV this weekend, where one of the panelists argued that its OK to wear trousers coz this was imported from the West hundreds of years ago, but Valentine's Day corrupts Indian culture (an essentialist view of things obviously) coz it's been imported just a few years ago...I haven't heard a wierder justification!!!
In class today while analysing one of those short stories we got talking on this...snippets of the discussion:
- Why do we 'fall' in love...shouldn't one 'rise' in love? (No pun intended!!!)
- How can one claim to 'completely' understand one's beloved, when one hasn't even completely understood oneself?
- The importance of being "in love" today - and how the whole concept of love is so screwed up today....and I wonder if i know what it is...I did and still believe I have some foggy notion; to me, it' a state of content being with someone, having accepted his shadows and lightness, strengths and weakness and accepted that you have your share of them as well...but well have pretty much lost those idealistic notions of the grandeur of love and all that bullshit...been there, seen it, and now know the pitt-falls of the trap??? Ah well...think what you like...I ain't saying no more...
But before I go, my friend had posted this on her blog and I couldn't resist stealing it...I think she's caught it marvellously:
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